Know My Name
A Memoir
Book - 2019


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Add a CommentA must read for everyone. Transformed my ideas of trauma and how we can support survivors of sexual assault.
This book made me realize how I have been socialized to think that anticipating male sexual aggression is my job, and that girls should even take responsibility for protecting males from their own worst instincts. This is despite thinking of myself as a feminist and it is because perpetrators of sexual violence routinely get away with it in our society so I've come to think of prevention as a woman or girl's only defence. This book made me really see how sick that is. I've rarely been pushed to think much about what rape and its aftermath is like for victims—it's appalling to contemplate and those who come out alive usually have no appetite to further victimize themselves in the courts and certainly not in the court of public opinion by showing us their faces and personhoods. This is what makes Chanel the bravest and most valiant crusader that ever was because despite the fact that she did not choose this horrible journey, she faced it bravely by standing up for herself and every other woman as well, and then she generously opened her devastated heart and told the rest of us about it. Bring tissues. Special bonus: she also writes incredibly well.
An emotional story by a woman who was sexually attacked and how she survived, despite the justice system, society and our attitudes. she lets you into her mind and heart and how she deals with this crime. Alot has to change but one thing that came to my mind is that boys have to be taught when they are young how to respect any woman and girls have to be taught that they are important and they have a right to their feelings.
Chanel Miller was raped, her case gained worldwide attention, and her attacker - Brock Turner - became the face of sexual assault (and the subsequent lack of accountability for such criminals). But she was erased, known only as Emily Doe until she wrote this memoir and reclaimed her name and identity. This book is so powerful and profound, yet Miller is also often matter-of-fact and plainspoken; she presents herself and her story forthrightly, saying here it all is - warts and all. Her writing is incredible, at times poetic, and she evokes tremendous emotion from her reader. In the latter part of her book after the trial, she spends time examining her own story in the larger context of political realities and presents a searing indictment of the legal system and its horrific treatment of survivors of sexual violence. This is all difficult to read, but worthwhile beyond measure.
Chanel Miller is an incredible human. She makes you laugh, makes you cry, and leaves you burning with a fiery rage to stand up for women everywhere.
Interesting topic but poorly written. After we get through the distressing scenes of the actual sexual assault the record of the minutiae of her life, while useful for a court, is boring for a reader.
Chanel MIller's memoir about her experience as a victim should be referenced in the required college admittance anti sexual assault modules. It reinforces the point that the inability to give consent does not constitute consent.
I have to admire Miller for coming forward to tell her story. I hope it results in changes to our legal process.
This novel was truly a beautiful experience. Chanel mentions that often times we refuse to discuss the things that make us uncomfortable, but it's those things that generally require addressing. It's eloquent, uncomfortable, heavy, and incredibly gorgeous to join Chanel in her journey to take back the narrative of this story and to amplify her voice. I can't recommend this book enough.
Non fiction novel- Modern Mrs Darcy
KNOW MY NAME is a memoir written by Chanel Miller, who was previously known as “Emily Doe” in court transcripts. With gut-wrenching honesty, Miller describes the circumstances surrounding her 2015 sexual assault, its impact on her life, and her experiences within the justice system. She expresses her thoughts and feelings in painstaking detail throughout her story. It's remarkable this is Miller's first publication. Powerful, raw, and emotional, I could only digest this book in small doses. Still, I applaud Chanel Miller for her courage and for finding her voice.